Human life is complex. You have to experience different situations, which are bitter, sweet, sour, and salty. Many ups and downs, occasional happiness, and too many responsibilities. In some part of your life, you feel lost and depressed, while in some part, the happiest human on the planet.
Human life is not easy because you have to carry your body, soul, heart, shadow, and emotions. You have to taste different situations and experiences.
Among all the experiences, the feeling of being lost is the most complex because it is unexpected, unwanted, and intolerable.
Feeling of being lost in life
A lyric of a song tells, “I see a fire burning on the water” I see a crowd like a desert”.
My heart has become like an empty hall. I feel lonely all the time. Even when I am surrounded by thousands of people, I see nobody there. I feel like what to do, why to do, and for whom?
Neither do I care about the present, nor the upcoming days, but inside me, there is a fear. A fear, but I don’t know the reason for that fear.
People talk to me, but I can’t process their words correctly. I feel confusion about what to respond to and what to hold in the heart.
I expect someone to take care of me, but I have nothing to give in return. Physically, I am unstable and can’t sit in one position for more than a minute. I have lost patience; I don’t see my future. I will be lonely forever.
Neither can I adjust in the group nor solo. I’m seeking something; something that I miss; something I have lost. I am not trying, just hoping.
I don’t communicate as frankly as I used to. Also, I don’t know why everything feels meaningless: career, money, appreciation, and Good Vibes.
Many regrets run in my mind that I can’t solve. I want someone to sit beside me to secure me, but I want to leave the table if someone comes to accompany me. I want to go back in time; I want to live in the same old days.
If you also feel in the same way, then you may have lost your life path.
Why do you have feeling of being lost?
Based on experience, these are the reasons:
1. Sudden turning points
Your heart and mind are not ready for sudden changes. When sudden incidents happen without warning, alarm, or notice, then a kind of insecurity makes you feel lost.
Life is unpredictable. We don’t know what is coming up next. Positive situations give happiness, but negative situations bring emotional fluctuations. If you are not already trained to handle your emotions in an emergency, you will become lonely.
For example, a hard-working guy is fired from the job because the company is bankrupt. A student who always cleared exams with good marks failed this time. A guy who lived in the comfort zone for 30 years now has to leave it. Suddenly, you are given huge responsibilities.
So, anything that happens suddenly, without a plan, makes you feel life has ended.
2. You lost something forever.
Losing something or someone forever is another reason you feel lost in life. That someone or something can be anyone or anything, which provides you with security, pleasure, and hope, such as parents, friends, pets, or gadgets.
Yes, we spend a huge portion of our time with them, and losing them or the fear of losing them makes us insecure. You want to spend more time with them, you want to complete all your missions, goals, and desires with them, but they have left you forever.
You may want to settle some emotional conflicts for self-satisfaction, but find that it is too late. Furthermore, you had seen all the future with them, but when they are gone, you also lose in life.
You were mentally and emotionally attached to them, but now they are not with you, and you are feeling depressed and ambitionless.
3. Reality not matching the priority
Let’s say a guy is sitting on the dining chair, and the Table is full of delicious non-vegetarian cuisine. But the problem is that the guy is a vegetarian. What is the point of serving him non-veg if he dislikes it?
The same things happen in life.
You may have everything in your life, good food, clothes, home, family, friends, career, everyone, but still you feel lost. Do you know why? Because your heart is not in your chest. It is roaming somewhere, for something, for someone.
You may have given your priority to something else, which may have expired or be hard to get. The memories still run in your head.
4. Life went beyond your plan and expectations
The opposite happened than what you had expected. You did preparation for years, but finally you find out that the job is not suitable for you. You fulfilled all your responsibilities as parent, spouse, and friend, but you heard sharp words in return. Those whom you thought were your people secretly hate you.
The feeling of being lost in life happens when you feel that nobody gives you attention, validation, or appreciation. Also, we can call it a feeling of being worthless. Although sacrificing your time like a donkey, when you don’t get the expected emotional, physical, and financial return, you feel lost and confused.
5. All the Appreciation is pulled back suddenly
Do you know what? Appreciation is the biggest mantra to motivate someone to reach the height of success. Words like, you are handsome, you are beautiful, today you are looking smart, you can do it, you have unique abilities, I wish I were like you are energy fueler.
Appreciation also gives the person a sense of security, sense of belonging and courage to walk ahead. That is why there is a saying, if you want to climb Mount Everest, you must have back support who don’t tired of appreciating and praising you.
Imagine that you have someone who loved you, supported emotionally and appreciated you for decade, but suddenly his/her behaviour changed. Yes, you feel lonely and lost, and this usually happens in relationships.
6. Too many options
Some people see many options in for starting profession but fail to decide which to pick for long run. They often pick the wrong path, waste their time in that fied for half decade. Then, when the dissatisfaction hits the head, they realize that they are still on the ground level and everyone has gone ahead.
Due to this, the person is detached from everyone and becomes lonely. He don’t feel the same vibes, he feels like time has changed. And when the person failed to handle such a time, he felt lost.
Things to do if you feel lost in life
Look! Life is a mixture of different recipes. So, don’t expect that there will be rainfall of goodness every time. Whenever you think that you have lost the path of your life, and don’t know what to do next, don’t be anxious because of these two reasons:
–The first is that time is testing your tolerance. Before taking you to the new world full of surprises, time wants to test whether you can handle it.
–Another reason is that nothing is permanent; over time, everything heals. All the physical, mental, and emotional wounds disappear. But the only thing you need to do is to show patience.
You are feeling purposeless due to confusion about how to adjust to a new environment. You can compare this feeling with the silence after a heavy, destructive storm.
Do these things:
1. Throw away all the negative experiences by sharing.
Search for the most trusting and understanding person in your family and share your negative experience. Don’t share with everyone, nor with your close friend. Only with the internal member who is emotionally mature.
Hang out regularly with the person with whom you share your personal affairs.
Spend more time with him or her. Yes, you may lack interest, but for your personal well-being, you need to do that. Go to the cinema, market, and natural places, and communicate about new topics as much as you can.
2. Try to connect with old friends.
After that, gradually try to connect with old friends, but talk about new hot topics. Share new things happening in your life. Don’t share the reason for being lost in life. Only talk about current affairs.
Talking about present things helps your mind to replace old, toxic memories with new, fresh ones. Also, exchanging ideas with old friends gives you a sense of belonging.
3. Keep patience and be calm.
You need to accept that it is a life and it goes forward, not backward. And the most interesting thing is that time heals everything. Right now, you may be feeling ambitionless and lost because the fresh trauma is in your mind and heart. But over time, you will heal. The new Sun rays will appear at your door.
Till then, try to speak less; instead, work on your habits. Like waking up early in the morning, reading information every day, engaging with positive people, and keeping yourself physically good-looking.
4. Don’t use social media for a few weeks.
When you feel lost in life, you need a genuine, real-life relationship to heal and find purpose again. Social media has a variety of content that may disturb your mindset. You will compare yourself with others; a depressing post may make your situation even worse.
Instead, read something on Quora, Reddit, or blogs about real experiences. There are thousands of personal experiences shared on the internet about how people regained their life purpose after surviving depression.
5. Think spiritually
Whenever you face these kinds of psychological and emotional difficulties in your life, you must motivate yourself spiritually. There is no long-lasting peace without a brutal war. Similarly, you need to sacrifice something to get something.
If you feel you have no purpose in your life, then it means you are traveling to the new world. You have sacrificed that old life, and the path to a new world is loneliness. Transformation is a must in life, as it matures you mentally.
Conclusion
Sometimes you make a decision even though you are not competent for it. Sometimes you lose something so that you can understand the value. And sometimes the mind turns totally empty so that new energy is generated.
If it is not suitable for you or it will ruin your life in the long run, then time takes it away from you. And when that attached thing is gone from your life, you feel lost. But it is a temporary situation. It is a blessing because this time teaches you valuable lesson which you will not get even in Oxford University.
There is nothing to worry about this issue, as gradually you will get a new purpose that is genuinely made for you. But, you need to handle this situation carefully because most of the people feel lost forever because they don’t give effort to come out of this situation.
Self-effort is the key.
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